My Partner is Pressuring Me to Have an Abortion, But I’m Not Sure
When someone you care about pushes you toward a decision you’re not ready to make, it can feel overwhelming and isolating. If your partner is pressuring you to have an abortion, remember this truth: the choice is yours alone. No one—no matter how close—has the right to decide for you.
At Options for Her, we offer free and confidential services so you can explore your next steps without feeling pressured or overwhelmed. Schedule an appointment today to learn more.
Recognizing Your Right to Decide
Your pregnancy decision will shape your life and future more than anyone else’s. While your partner may have strong feelings, perhaps fueled by fear, finances, or personal experiences, you are the one who will live with the outcome.
It’s okay to pause and give yourself time to reflect. Consider what you want, what matters most to you, and how each option, parenting, adoption, or abortion, aligns with your values and goals.
Setting Healthy Boundaries
Standing firm when a loved one is vocal or persistent can be challenging. You might say, “I understand your feelings, but I must make this decision myself.” This sets a clear boundary while keeping communication open.
If conversations become heated or one-sided, it’s okay to take a break and distance yourself temporarily. Protecting your emotional well-being is a wise decision, and choices made under intense stress can be ones you regret, especially when you can’t think clearly.
Sometimes pressure turns into coercion or abuse. Threats, manipulation, or emotional control are never acceptable. If you feel unsafe, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800-799-7233) for 24/7 confidential support. You deserve respect and safety as you make your decision.
Exploring All Your Options
Having a supportive environment where you can think freely is key. At Options for Her, you can meet with a compassionate advocate who will walk you through each choice—parenting, adoption, and abortion—so you understand each one.
You do not have to face this situation alone or allow anyone else to decide. Schedule your free and confidential appointment with Options for Her today to talk with someone who will help you make the decision that’s truly yours.
FAQ:
What if my partner threatens to leave if I don’t have an abortion?
No one should use threats to influence your choice. This is emotional coercion and not acceptable in a healthy relationship. You deserve support, not ultimatums.
Can my partner legally force me to have an abortion?
No. In every state, the decision to continue or end a pregnancy belongs solely to the pregnant woman. Your partner cannot legally compel you to abort.
How can I stay calm when I feel overwhelmed?
Take breaks from tense conversations, seek support from trusted friends or family, and consider meeting with a professional counselor or advocate.
Does Options for Her provide abortions?
No. We do not provide or refer for abortions. Our role is to give you accurate information and support so you can make an informed, pressure-free decision.
Pregnancy Testing
If you suspect you may be pregnant, you should speak with a trusted medical provider or pregnancy clinic. By discussing the best time to test and confirming your results with a quality pregnancy test and ultrasound, you can be sure of the results and begin planning your next step.
Ultrasound
Ultrasounds use high-frequency sound waves to receive information that can be seen as an image on a screen. Determine what choices you have with an ultrasound. An ultrasound will alert you of any possible complications. It is an important step of the pregnancy confirmation process, as it confirms three different aspects of your pregnancy.
Mobile Unit
We offer pregnancy confirmation services at our Mobile Unit! Here is more about our pregnancy services, provided at no cost to you and completely confidential. If for some reason you can't come to us, we can come to you with our mobile unit.
Pregnancy Testing
If you suspect you may be pregnant, you should speak with a trusted medical provider or pregnancy clinic. By discussing the best time to test and confirming your results with a quality pregnancy test and ultrasound, you can be sure of the results and begin planning your next step.
Ultrasound
Ultrasounds use high-frequency sound waves to receive information that can be seen as an image on a screen. Determine what choices you have with an ultrasound. An ultrasound will alert you of any possible complications. It is an important step of the pregnancy confirmation process, as it confirms three different aspects of your pregnancy.
Mobile Unit
We offer pregnancy confirmation services at our Mobile Unit! Here is more about our pregnancy services, provided at no cost to you and completely confidential. If for some reason you can't come to us, we can come to you with our mobile unit.
